One new vocabulary word I've picked up over the last few years is the word ruminate. If you're not familiar with this word, it means "to think about things very deeply." But in the world of psychology, it generally means to obsess over things repeatedly, especially negative things. While this is a classic symptom of depression, many people ruminate over the daily events of their lives.
You might work or live with someone who ruminates. It's easy to tell because they complain and obsess constantly. Ruminators suck the energy out of everything and everyone. They are exhausting to be around because no matter how positive and upbeat you want to be, a ruminator will find something wrong with it.
You: "Looks like a beautiful day today"
Them: "Yeah, but it's supposed to rain later."
You: "You look great today."
Them: "But I feel like shit."
You: "Happy Birthday!"
Them: "What's there to be happy about? I'm just getting older!"
I think you get the picture. A person is very much like a plant. A plant needs a good seed, healthy soil, sunlight and water to grow to it's full potential. Our ability to grow is closely connected to our environment so we have to take care to create the best environment for our growth.
But the most important reason to steer clear of "ruminators" is that whatever you put energy toward will expand. It's the reason why ruminators have such a negative life. The reality is that you become whatever you think.
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